A Side of Discipline

So, as a parent, I think we never stop learning, especially when it comes to how we raise our kids. No newborn ever came with a booklet, so essentially we learn as we go. Yes, you can read and research about anything before your child is born, but ultimately you don't know what will work until your child comes into this world and "game on."

I was just reading a few articles on certain forms of discipline. I read one article about why you shouldn't yell at your kids and I think this was an excellent point. This point stated that if your boss where to yell at you everyday, would you respect them more? My answer would be no and I would probably tune them out the more they yelled. So, I am thinking this is why when I do raise my voice with Wes, he doesn't really listen to me.

There was another I read about spanking, and yes spanking is such a controversial topic, but they made good points. It sends a strong message to kids and suggest to them that when we are angry, we hit. I have seen this play out with Wes when I spanked him often. After reading, these articles, I am mainly going to stick with my time-out, but of course if Wes were to do something dangerous I'll do a small spank. I have pretty much thought this was the case and am glad I found some articles to back my thinking up.

Some will say that they were spanked when they were young and they turned out just fine, but did they really? When they get mad, is the first thing they think to do is take their anger out on something or someone. OR, maybe they are a little timid from fear of breaking the rules? I used to think it had no effect on me, but I was wrong. I was spanked and I am not saying what my parents did was wrong because that was the acceptable way of punishment back then. I do know that I am extremely timid and I hate breaking the rules, which could be a good thing, but sometimes it's boring!